Stress: Children & Teens
Often times we think of stress as an issue that primarily affects adults, however, stress can have a significant impact on children and teens. Stress occurs when someone feels overwhelmed and unable to meet the demands placed on them. Stress in children and teens can arise from internal pressures (ones that the child places on themselves) and external events such as losing a family member, divorce, natural disaster, peer group issues, school-related issues, etc.
What does stress look like in children and teens? What should I look out for as a parent/caregiver?
- Changes in mood such as increased anger, irritability, sadness, etc.
- Acting out or reactions that seem out of proportion to the situation
- Headaches and stomachaches
- Unexplained weight or appetite changes
- Changes in sleep (i.e., sleeping too much or too little, nightmares, etc.)
- Bedwetting
- Separation anxiety or clinginess
- Difficulty concentrating, inattention, etc.
- No longer being interested in activities the child once enjoyed
- Withdrawing from friends and/or family members
- Significant changes in academic performance
- Increased lying, defiance, etc.
How can I help my child cope with stress?
Great question! It’s important to keep in mind that children and teens, especially young children, may not have the vocabulary to explain to you that they are feeling stressed. Spending extra time with your child, validating and reflecting their feelings, and providing physical comfort such as hugs can be incredibly helpful.
If your child is open about their feelings and wants to talk with you about them, allow space for your child to do so without judgment. You don’t need to have the answers for how to fix their problem though you can help identify coping skills that might help them feel better. Coping skills may include meditation, deep breathing, talking to a supportive adult, doing art, engaging in physical exercise, etc. Carving out “quiet time” during the day can also be helpful and a way for your child to disconnect from screens, devices, and social media which can increase stress.
I’ve tried all these things but I’m still worried about my child. What should I do next?
If you’re worried about your child’s mental and/or physical health, please seek support from a medical or mental health professional. Reaching out to your child’s pediatrician can rule out any medical issues that may impact well-being. Additionally, a mental health professional can provide tools and skills to your child to assist them in managing overwhelming thoughts and feelings, as well as helping you as the parent/caregiver to support utilization of these skills at home.
Wishing health and wellness to you and your family,